While you are in “recovery mode,” begin the preliminary planning process. Gather your assets. Make sure you know where your money is. If you are a widow, take care of all your administrative obligations: Settle the estate, collect life insurance, update your will. Remember that you don’t need to do all of this alone. Use advisors. Your financial planner, lawyer, accountant and insurance agent can help you manage these administrative affairs.
The next step is to decide if you want to handle everything yourself or if you want the help of a financial advisor moving forward. Ideally, you should do some of both. Educate yourself, so that you can ask informed questions and make informed decisions. Then consider hiring an advisor to guide you through the process of reorganization and change.
Once you have recovered and you feel ready to make major decisions, you can begin to develop your plan. Do you have enough income? Do you want to live in the same house or do you want to downsize? Do you want to make changes in your investments by consolidating or changing your advisor?
Keep in mind that this process takes time. The most important thing is to take a step back and come to terms with your situation before you try to change it.